Cognitive behavioral Therapy (CBT) can be used to treat individuals with a wide range of mental health problems. CBT is based on the idea that how we think (cognition), how we feel (emotion) and how we act (behavior) all interact together. Our thoughts determine our feelings and our behavior. In CBT you will learn to identify those thoughts that are painful and upsetting about current problems, and to determine whether these thoughts are realistic. If these thoughts are deemed to be unrealistic, you will learn skills that help you to change your thinking patterns so that these unrealistic thoughts are more accurate with respect to a given situation. At this time, you will more than likely receive exercises, “homework” that will help you learn to apply the skills and solutions you come up with in therapy in you day to day life to the way you think and act.
CBT aims to help individuals become aware of when they make negative interpretations, and of behavioral patterns that reinforce the distorted thinking.
Once your perspective is more realistic, the therapist can help you determine an appropriate course of action. You will probably get “homework” to do between sessions. That work may include exercises that will help you learn to apply the skills and solutions you come up with in therapy to the way you think and act in your day-to-day life.
I cherish the fact that our youth can often see life more simply and adapt to change easily. Children are wired for relationships and healthy relationships with adults is crucial for their development of trust, empathy, and conscience and helps them develop curiosity, self-direction, persistence, cooperation, care, and conflict-resolution skills. Play therapy is used to help children ages 3 to 12 explore their lives and to freely express repressed thoughts and emotions through play. The goal is to help in learning to express themselves in healthier ways, process through their emotions, discover new and more positive ways to solve problems and resolve conflicts, and become more respectful and empathetic. become more respectful. Play therapy typically takes place in a safe environment where very few rules or limits are imposed on the child, encouraging free expression and allowing the therapist to observe the child’s choices, decisions, and play style.
The Gottman Method for Healthy Relationships is a type of couples-based therapy and education that draws on the pioneering studies of relationships by psychologist John Gottman and clinical practice conducted by John Gottman and his wife, psychologist Julie Gottman.
After nearly 40 years of research John Gottman was able to identify the elements it takes for relationships to last—among all types of couples across all phases of life. There are nine components of what the Gottman’s call The Sound Relationship House, from partners making mental maps of each other’s world to learning how to break through relationship gridlock. One of the reigning insights of the science-based approach is that in the dynamics of relationship systems, negative emotions like defensiveness and contempt have more power to hurt a relationship than positive emotions have to help a relationship. As a result, the structured therapy focuses on developing an understanding and skills so that partners can maintain fondness and admiration, turn toward each other to get their needs met (especially when they are hurting), manage conflict, and enact their dreams—and what to do when they mess up (because everyone does).
Co-parent counseling was developed in an effort to help divorcing parents learn how to "do divorce better" and "effectively parent." Co-parent counseling helps parents learn to communicate effectively in a business-like fashion, leaving out all the emotions that are involved, and solely focus on the child. Unfortunately, parents sometimes lose site of what is important, and get caught up in what the other parent is saying or doing that may seem unfair. Divorce or separation can be traumatic for most children and support from both parents is needed in order to heal.
Co-parenting with the other parent after a divorce can be difficult. When parents decide to divorce, they end their personal relationship as partners, but continue their relationship as parents. When couples separate some can separate their personal relationship from the parenting relationship allowing for the parents to agree to a custody arrangement and amicably share time with their child. They both can attend school and extracurricular activities and remain equally involved. However, for many parents, this process may be quite difficult; they may not contest custody and may want to share time with their child(ren), but have difficulty separating and keeping separate personal issues from parenting issues. These are the parents for which co-parent counseling is intended.
Co-parent counseling allows parents the opportunity to process through the best interest of their children in a neutral environment. When discussions begin to drift from parenting issues to personal and or previous martial issues that need to be kept distinct from the best need of their children, a professional is there to keep them on tract. The goals within co-parenting therapy is to help parents strengthen their ability to function in ways that nurture their children’s well-being and to help parents unburden their children by learning to manage their own emotions and anxieties regardless of the feelings their former partner triggers in themselves. Specific treatment goals vary according to the need of the individual but generally it will assist in establishing agreements regarding a schedule for when children are to be with each parent (parenting-time), areas for joint decision-making, means and frequency of communication between parents, and any other issues that may require attention. The hope is for parents to be able to free themselves from dysfunctional, emotionally-charged communication and behavior patterns by helping them to adopt clearly defined, respectful, and unemotional approaches to problem-solving and decision making.
I am very passionate about the benefits of being an effective cop-parent. Please see our blog for posts in regards to being an effective co-parent.
Voice of the Child of Divorce
Dear Mom and Dad
Teens and young adults are facing pressures from all sides. They are processing some of life’s most fundamental questions of identify and purpose, and often feel that they are doing it alone.
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing Therapy, or EMDR, helps the mind recover from extreme emotional pain or trauma. It is based on the idea that the mind can heal just like the body can heal from any physical pain one may experience. EMDR is an evidence-based practice with proven effectiveness for adults with a history of trauma and has a history of working with teens as well. Many use EMDR counseling as treatment for depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), and anxiety in both children and adults. EMDR is a unique, nontraditional form of psychotherapy designed to diminish negative feelings associated with memories of traumatic events. Unlike most forms of talk therapy, EMDR focuses less on the traumatic event itself and more on the disturbing emotions and symptoms that result from the event. To learn more please visit The EMDR Institute